Our quarterly book club meetings are a chance to connect and reconnect with other parents while exploring a range of topics related to raising children. Come to the book club ready to discuss what you learned while reading the book selected for that session – what you liked, what was useful, and what didn’t make sense. The book club meetings are highly interactive with lots of discussion.
Monday, October 4th, 2021
The Co-Regulation Handbook — by Linda Murphy
Author Linda Murphy will be joining us for this discussion of her second book!
Do you know a child who struggles to get started with things or who resists trying something new? Maybe they argue or have trouble joining other kids in conversation and play. Do you hear yourself prompting your child again and again? Do you feel frustrated or stuck, and long for a better way – a more positive way – to engage your child while guiding them toward independence?
This book was written for parents, caregivers, professionals and more – to guide you on how to move away from prompting and prodding kids – and toward authentic connections and competent roles. You’ll learn how to create a positive learning environment for everyone, and feel empowered as you thoughtfully expand roles and responsibilities.
Wednesday, January 12th, 2022
What Happened to You? — by Bruce Perry, M.D., Ph.D. and Oprah Winfrey
#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER
Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand.
Have you ever wondered “Why did I do that?” or “Why can’t I just control my behavior?” Others may judge our reactions and think, “What’s wrong with that person?” When questioning our emotions, it’s easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It’s time we started asking a different question.
Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?”
Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the book, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future—opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.
Tuesday, April 19th, 2022
What Do You Say? — by William Stixrud, Ph.D. and Ned Johnson
What Do You Say: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home is a guide for effectively communicating with teenagers by the bestselling authors of The Self-Driven Child.
If you’re a parent, you’ve had a moment–maybe many of them–when you’ve thought, “How did that conversation go so badly?” At some point after the sixth grade, the same kid who asked “why” non-stop at age four suddenly stops talking to you. And the conversations that you wish you could have–ones fueled by your desire to see your kid not just safe and healthy, but passionately engaged–suddenly feel nearly impossible to execute. The good news is that effective communication can be cultivated, learned, and taught. And as you get better at this, so will your kids.
The most common question Ned Johnson and Bill Stixrud get when out speaking to parents and educators is: What do you say? In their book, they show how to engage in respectful and effective dialogue, beginning with defining and demonstrating the basic principles of listening and speaking. Then they show new ways to handle specific, thorny topics of the sort that usually end in parent/kid standoffs: delivering constructive feedback to kids; discussing boundaries around technology; explaining sleep and their brains; the anxiety of current events; and family problem-solving. What Do You Say? is a manual and map that will immediately transform parents’ ability to navigate complex terrain and train their minds and hearts to communicate ever more successfully.
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Previous Book Club selections:
- Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life by Stuart Shanker, Ph.D.
- Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity by Andrew Solomon
- Raising Human Beings: Creating a Collaborative Partnership With Your Child by Ross Greene, Ph.D.
- Not What I Expected: Help and Hope for Parents of Atypical Children by Rita Eichenstein, Ph.D.
- Smart But Scattered: The Revolutionary “Executive Skills” Approach to Helping Kids Reach Their Potential by Peg Dawson & Richard Guare
- The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives by William Stixrud & Ned Johnson
- The Gardener and the Carpenter: What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us About the Relationship Between Parents and Children by Alison Gopnik
- Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst by Robert Sapolsky
- Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World by Deborah Reber
- Beyond Behaviors: Using Brain Science and Compassion to Understand and Solve Children’s Behavioral Challenges by Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
- The Out-of-Sync Child: Recognizing and Coping with Sensory Processing Disorder by Carol Stock Kranowitz, M.A.
- Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff, Ph.D.
- The Speed of Dark by Elizabeth Moon
- The Essential Conversation: What Parents and Teachers Can Learn from Each Other by Sara Lawrence-Lightfoot
- Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman
- The Declarative Language Handbook by Linda Murphy, CCC-SLP