Why do some kids relish challenges, while other kids rely on those around them to help them navigate?
Anxious and overwhelmed kids can’t do anything until they calm down. Helping them anticipate what will happen, and teaching them coping strategies will help them take on new challenges, even when you have asked them to do something hard.
Patiently showing your child what to do will help them follow your directions when they don’t understand what you want.
When a child says, “No!” it is usually because she has an unsolved problem or an unmet need. Understanding and addressing that need creates a sense of trust and connection between the two of you that will help your child to do as requested.
By providing just the right amount of challenge, your child can learn. The tricky part is figuring out how much challenge is just right, and when to adapt.
In talking to other parents, you may learn about an intervention that has helped someone else with a profile similar your child’s. These therapies are sometimes quite expensive, and many are not covered by insurance. How do you decide what to do?
“We are so grateful that someone recommended we get in touch with Sarah! My son had struggled with school from the beginning, and it seriously affected his health and emotions, as well as our family life. Sarah helped guide us through the process of getting more detailed testing done to determine his strengths and learning disabilities. She was an invaluable support throughout the very difficult process of working with his school to update his IEP to reflect his needs, and helped us advocate for our son to get the services he required, which ultimately led to a new school setting where he is finally happy, and feeling successful and confident in his abilities.”